this is a response to this post that i didn’t want to reblog ‘cause it pisses the fuck out of me:
Arizona sleeping with Leah was cheating just as much as Arizona sleeping with Lauren was. They weren’t divorced. Callie kicked Arizona out and took of her ring cause she was hurting. That doesn’t mean their commitment to each other was void. Arizona is just as much of a “little slut” as she’s always been and when Callie finds out, she has every right to be as mad as she wants. Callie isn’t at fault for hurting, but if Arizona really wanted their relationship to work out she wouldn’t have started something with someone else. That’s all.
And my answer?
A big fucking no. She didn’t cheat, this wasn’t her being a “little slut”, which - by the way - is a weak argument and even if these characters are fake, shouldn’t really be a word we use to describe them. Arizona did try to talk to Callie. Callie was hurt, understandably so. She didn’t want to try any more. She took off her ring and didn’t give Arizona any indication that they would have any future together. Callie was telling people she was dead. Maybe it wasn’t the right thing to do, but Callie was coping with losing her wife.
Same with Arizona. Arizona even called Callie her ex-wife. She clearly thinks it’s over between them - not because she didn’t want to be with Callie. Keeping her ring and her necklace on for so long should be an indication. Sleeping with Leah wasn’t about Callie at all. It wasn’t cheating because there was no one to cheat on anymore, in her point of view. She was trying to move on.
So everyone, stop calling her a “slut”, stop being closed minded about the story being told. Of course Callie can be mad at her, of course it’s going to be hard to move on together from this. But we aren’t going to always like the qualities you see in the characters and the relationships we love. We aren’t always going to like their characterization or how the writers tell the story.